Category Archives: Loss

A Guided Meditation to Help You Cope with Divorce

Divorce is one of the most stressful events and challenging times a person can experience. Life as you know it is upended, the future is unclear and that’s scary. Separating your lives is painful.

Feelings of hurt, anger, sadness can be overwhelming. It’s easy to feel lost, stuck, confused. And yet, at the same time that you are swirling in all of these emotions and upheaval, you are tasked to continue on at work and at home all while making big decisions that have implications for your life and your children’s lives for years to come.

Caught in this storm of stress and emotions, the primitive part of your brain can take over; hunkering down, avoiding, or lashing out. While this primitive response to threat is natural, it’s not going to help you calm down, meet your children’s needs, make decisions, and create a plan to move forward.

You need to be able to shift from a threat response to a challenge response. You need to be able to rise to the challenge and function at your best when life has served up its worst. You will benefit from turning a traumatic experience into a growth opportunity. One way you can do this is by focusing your intentions on thoughts that promote calm, competence, clarity of values, child-centered parenting, and resilience.

I have come to appreciate the healing benefits of a simple, yet powerful meditation practice.  How can as little as 10 minutes of meditation a day play a role in this transformation?

Consistent meditation, even for 10, 15, or 20 minutes a day can help you connect to a sense of calm and safety. It can help you shift your attention from the external world to your internal experience in the moment. In this way, you may feel more grounded and whole, rather than fragmented and confused.

As you connect to yourself, in a calm, accepting, and soothing way, you will feel more centered. As you feel more centered, you can get in touch with your true self, your goodness, your wisdom, your deepest intentions and values. As you build this calm internal space to guard against the storm that is outside and around you, you can find your highest values and best self. This is the part of you that can guide your decisions, actions, and your path forward.

This is why I have created Divorce Meditations for Healing and Growth (TM)  specific to this challenging journey in your life. I want you to have a tool to help you access the part of yourself that can rise to the challenges of this difficult time. This tool can be helpful to you whether you have never meditated before or meditate regularly.

This new guided meditation audio is designed to offer structure for soothing yourself as well as positive, centering thoughts. The goal is to build a brief but powerful tool to help you manage the stress of divorce as well as remind you of your wholeness, strengths, and highest intentions. With daily practice, these habits have the potential to build your capacity for calm, healing, and growth of the best parts of yourself in the midst of the stress and challenges that can often bring out the most primitive and negative parts of yourself. This meditation is designed so that the worst of times can bring out the best in you!

With as little as 10-15 minutes a day (or 10 minutes twice a day) you can create a meditation habit that has the potential to create changes in your brain, shifting from reactive to proactive in ways that:

  • Restore calm
  • Soothe emotions
  • Reduce reactivity
  • Promote self-compassion and understanding
  • Promote other compassion and understanding
  • Identify core values
  • Set Goals
  • Promote peace

With this simple daily practice and the selected helpful and hopeful intentions, you have a guided and grounding path forward. Start seeing and experiencing benefits in your body right away!

Don’t let this very stressful time control you! Optimize your ability to control yourself and take charge of your life.

This is your invitation out of confusion, conflict and pain towards calm, clarity, and peace. To finding your way through this challenging time and back to your core values and toward your best self.

8 Ways to Raise Happy, Resilient Kids After Divorce

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Phoenix Rising: Emerging Stronger from the Challenges of Divorce

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